Who is to blame?04:50 Feb 03 2008
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KCRC made me think with his comment of "I blame society"
For those who want to not be left behind?
People who see a social ladder to climb?
I was loaned the Girls next door seasons one and two, at first I was like "oh fuck, another stereo typical dumb blonde with an old man"... actually three of them.
But one episode hit me hard. Perhaps it was also the experiment and how it was shaking things up here. It doesn't really matter, because it made me really think. When the girls went on the View they were treated with distain. Not because they were women living out their dream, but because their dream is what some would tell women not to live out.
How can we who call ourselves feminists, honestly be able to judge these women? They are young, rich, getting the educations they choose and so what if they are dating an 80+ yr old? Why do we look down on women who CHOOSE the typical family?
If we truly stand up for women's rights, we need to do so for all women. Including those that choose to not be "smart" but choose to be pretty. Their choice is just as valid as ours.
While an education can give you self-reliance, there are those that are resentful of this. My mother for instance, all she wanted was a home, family and to be a wife. Instead of a husband that loved and cherished her, that would allow her to be home for us- she married someone who has told her at 61 she should go back to school and support HIM. Yes there are other reasons they split up, but that is still hurtful to her core.
As it is not what she wanted. She is living a life that I would have rejoiced in... but to her it has been sheer hell.
Because she raised me to be what I want to be, I have to honor her in what SHE WANTS. We all have hypocrisy. Some of us are fortunate, brave enough, or unlucky enough to have it shown to us in our faces. Others may never see it in themselves.
I am thankful that I have had this change of perspective. My happiness will or will not be the same as yours. Still I wish it to you in spades, because no matter how it looks we are all blessed in some things, and need to remember that. Find your bliss, however it looks and no matter what anyone else thinks.
Others will try to change your mind or sway you to what they think is right. It is not their life, and as this week has shown me, there is far too much negativity in the world to get where someone thinks they should be. If you choose the rat race, I hope you choose it with eyes open so you may keep your personal integrity.
Because in the end, it is all we can hold to. Did we stay true to our own version of self? When you loose that, you will never look at you the same way again. You deserve more, to stand by what you believe, not in blind faith; but with an understanding of who you are and why.
That was the biggest disappointment for me this past week. Seeing how little respect people had for others, and in turn themselves. If one thing could change, I would hope people would question their actions- even just in thought. There is much we can all learn from reflection.
After all, for those in that Playboy mansion- they have exactly what they wanted. Not my cup of tea, but for them it is exactly what their dreams are made of.
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